By Gabby Ponds, Bud Class of 2017
The spring semester is notorious for being more difficult than the fall. Typically, when life gets more stressful, we forget to take the time to take care of ourselves. Similarly, we forget to nourish the special relationship that we have with ourselves. Even when self-love seems impossible, there are little things that you can do to ensure that you ace your classes while living your best life.
For one, practice self-care! When a friend is stressed out, upset or in pain, we take care of them. However, we also have to learn to be a friend to ourselves. When you wake up in the morning, take a shower, brush your teeth, comb your hair, etc. Make sure to leave yourself enough time to care for your body. This includes making time to exercise, drink water, and eat healthy foods. When your body is taken care of, you are more likely to feel good about yourself. Therefore, creating daily routines and carving out time for your schedule for self-care is a crucial component of self-love.
Second, stop comparing yourself to others. Someone may have gotten a better grade than you, another person might have nicer shoes, etc. No matter the case, none of these things take away from your value as a person. You don’t have to be Superwoman to be successful. Find success in the little things you do and praise yourself constantly. Don’t look for validation from others and don’t strive to be like others. Each day, tell yourself that you are going to be the best version of you that you can possibly be today and then act like it.
Lastly, use affirmations! Affirmations can be short words or phrases that you repeat to yourself to try and get your brain to think more positively on its own. For example, it could be as simple as looking in the mirror and saying, “I’m beautiful.” Utilize the internet to discover affirmations for all aspects of your life. This includes motivation, confidence, interpersonal relationships, etc. But, no matter what, you must believe that what you are telling yourself is true. That way, your brain will learn to automatically praise itself when things go right rather than berating itself when things go wrong.
Overall, self-love can be difficult to master. However, life is too short to spend it hating yourself. Learn to cultivate a love that you can easily give to yourself without question. Remember, that you are beautiful, priceless and deserve all the love and care in the world. Fortunately, with constant practice, you will begin to fall in love with the amazing person that you truly are.